A live in relationship is a living arrangement in which an
unmarried couple lives together in a long- term relationship that resembles a
marriage. Couples cohabit, rather than marry, for a variety of reasons. They
may want to test their compatibility before they commit to alegal union. They
may want to maintain their single status for financial reasons. In some cases,
such as those involving gay/ lesbian couples, or individuals already married to
another person, the law does not allow them to marry. In other cases, the
partners may feel that marriage is unnecessary. The union of two persons that
is formally recognized by law is known as marriage. It is a formal commitment
between the couple. On the other hand, live in relationship refers to a kind of
an arrangement where a couple decides to live together as if married. This kind
of relationship is generally not legal or religiously sectioned.
Live in Relationship is a kind of arrangement where a couple
decide to live together. It still maintains the single status of the couple.
The arrangement is quite similar to a marriage except the type of recognition.
In many societies, a live in relationship is not socially accepted as the
privilege is only associated with the marriage. Most of the couples prefer this
arrangement as this is a way to test the compatibility.
Concerns about pre-marital cohabitation may be legit.
Substantial evidence associates cohabitation with negative relationship
outcomes. Pre-marital cohabitation is viewed as a risk factor for divorce as it
predicts later marital instability, poorer marriage quality, and less
relationship satisfaction.
Compared to married couples, cohabiting couples
argue more, have more trouble resolving conflicts, are more insecure about
their partners’ feelings, and have more problems related to their future goals.
This is important to know Why Do People Cohabitate before
Marriage? Unmarried couples have very different motivations for living
together. For most people, the number one reason to cohabitate is quite positive:
they want to spend more time with the person they’re dating. Others cite that
cohabitation makes financial sense, that they want to test out the
relationship, or that they don’t believe in the institute of marriage.
Cohabitating out of convenience (i.e., expired leases; financial sense) or to
test a relationship can lead to problems.
The Inertia Effect plays a key role. Cohabitation is
recognized as a strong predictor of marriage, in part because of the inertia
effect. Once a couple cohabitates, a momentum towards marriage begins and it’s
more difficult to break up because of the greater investment. The inertia
effect is problematic when it drives a couple that would otherwise not have
married, to become married. Maybe this is why married men who cohabited before
marriage are less dedicated to their wives than married men who did not first
cohabitate. The inertia effect is only relevant to cohabiters who are not
already engaged prior to cohabitation. Compared to those who are engaged before
living together, those who aren’t are less satisfied in the relationships,
report less relationship dedication, and less relationship confidence.
Interestingly, both engaged and non-engaged cohabiting couples tend to report
less relationship dedication, less relationship confidence, and more negative
communication compared to those who wait to live together until marriage.
It’s hard to imagine that the relationship troubles
associated with living together before marriage are universal for all
cohabitating couples.
The categories of cohabiters are: Incongruent engaged
cohabiters described as couples who are engaged but in disagreement over how
quickly they’re moving towards marriage. Engaged cohabiters moving fast are
cohabiters engaged and in agreement that they are on the fast track towards
marriage. Engaged cohabiters moving slow may be engaged, but they agree they
are not moving quickly towards a wedding day. Incongruent non-engaged
cohabiters individuals are not engaged and they differ in their views on the
relationship’s future, i.e., if and when they will get married. Non-engaged
cohabiters without marital plans as the name suggests, this group of cohabiters
are in agreement that they have no plans in the work for marriage and do not
necessary view cohabitation as a path towards marriage.
Counseling falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’
and allows people to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they
encounter in a safe, confidential environment. The term can mean different
things to different people, but in general it is a process people seek when
they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts
and feelings in more depth. A counselor is not there to sit us down and tell
what to do - instead they encourage us to talk about what's bothering us in
order to uncover any root causes and identify our specific ways of thinking.
The counselor may then look to create a plan of action to either help reconcile
our issues or help us to find ways of coping. The counselor can help in live in
relationships by changing the views of the relationship.
Throughout the therapeutic process, the therapist attempts
to help both partners see the relationship in a more objective manner. They learn to stop the "blame game"
and instead look at what happens to them as a process involving each partner.
Counselor can modify dysfunctional behavior. Effective couples therapists
attempt to change the way that the partners actually behave with each other.
This means that in addition to helping them improve their interactions,
therapists also need to ensure that their clients are not engaging in actions
that can cause physical, psychological, or economic harm. A counselor may
Decrease emotional avoidance. Couples
who avoid expressing their private feelings put themselves at greater risk of
becoming emotionally distant and hence grow apart. Effective couple’s
therapists help their clients bring out the emotions and thoughts that they
fear expressing to the other person. Attachment-based couples’ therapy allows
the partners to feel less afraid of expressing their needs for closeness.
A counselor improves communication. All effective couples’
therapies focus on helping the partners to communicate more effectively.
Couples may require "coaching" to learn how to speak to each other in
more supportive and understanding ways.
The therapist may also provide the couple with didactic instruction to
give them the basis for knowing what types of communication are effective and
what types will only cause more conflict.
They can learn how to listen more actively and empathically, for
example. The counselor promote strengths. Effective couples’ therapists point
out the strengths in the relationship and build resilience particularly as
therapy nears a close. Because so much
of couples’ therapy involves focusing on problem areas, it's easy to lose sight
of the other areas in which couples function effectively. The point of
promoting strength is to help the couple derive more enjoyment out of their
relationship. Counseling helps people in
troubled relationships by demonstrating that there is no need to give up in
despair if the situation seems bleak. Similarly, people afraid of entering
long-term relationships can be encouraged by learning that troubled
relationships can be fixed.
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